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What is Codependency?

28 January, 2022Articles, News

Codependency, a term often associated with relationships, extends its reach into the lives of individuals who grapple with addiction recovery and substance abuse in Johannesburg and Pretoria. This unhealthy reliance on a partner, typically one battling addiction, can hinder personal growth and the pursuit of mutually satisfying relationships. In this article, we explore the dynamics of codependency, its impact on addiction recovery, and how rehabilitation centres like Crossroads Recovery Centre in Johannesburg and Pretoria offer hope and healing.

Understanding the Cycle of Codependency:

Codependency often finds its roots in dysfunctional families, where a child learns to prioritise the needs of an addicted or mentally ill parent above their own. These early experiences can shape a person’s future relationships, leading to codependent behaviours. In Johannesburg and Pretoria, where the effects of substance abuse are prevalent, it’s crucial to recognize that codependency can manifest in various relationships beyond the classic enabling spouse scenario.

The Characteristics of Codependency:

Codependent individuals may grapple with low self-esteem, deriving their value from taking care of an unhealthy partner. They often see themselves as responsible for their partner’s negative behaviours, engaging in martyr-like roles. Denial plays a significant role in codependent relationships, where the codependent may be blind to their own actions and the impact of their partner’s addiction. The need to rescue the partner is a driving force, leading to an unhealthy reliance on the relationship to avoid feelings of failure and abandonment.

Codependency’s Impact on Relationships:

Codependent relationships exhibit several hallmarks, including poor communication, a lack of boundaries, a relentless need for approval, pent-up anger, dishonesty, and a desire for control. In Johannesburg and Pretoria, where the effects of codependency can exacerbate substance abuse issues, it’s essential to address these destructive patterns.

Overcoming Codependency:

Hope shines for codependent individuals when they embark on a journey of understanding and recovery. Education on the nature of addiction and its impact on relationships is vital. Investigating childhood issues and recognizing destructive relationship patterns are key steps. Identifying and expressing emotions, as well as establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries, are crucial milestones on the path to recovery.

The Role of Rehabilitation Centers:

In Johannesburg and Pretoria, rehabilitation centres like Crossroads Recovery Centre play a pivotal role in breaking the cycle of codependency and addiction. These centres offer specialised programmes addressing both substance abuse and codependency. By providing education, therapy, and a supportive environment, individuals can work towards healthier, mutually satisfying relationships and rediscover their own wants and needs. The journey to recovery begins with understanding that one’s happiness is not solely dependent on others, and that it’s possible to let go of destructive relationships.

Codependency, often entangled with addiction recovery, is a formidable challenge in Johannesburg and Pretoria, where substance abuse issues persist. Recognizing the signs and seeking help are essential steps. Rehabilitation centres like Crossroads Recovery Centre offer tailored support, guiding individuals on a path to recovery, healthier relationships, and personal growth. In these cities, help is not far away, and hope is within reach for those willing to embark on the journey to break free from the chains of codependency and addiction.

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Stories of Recovery

  • The encouragement, love and support from the team at Crossroads allowed me to eventually see that I was worth something - that my life could be turned around and that I could accomplish the things that had long been a forgotten dream.
    Oliver VG
    Read more
  • On the last day of my stint at Crossroads I could only express gratitude towards all who works there. A wise councillor once commented on my question when one is ready for rehab by explaining that when one is ready for rehab, rehab is ready for you.
    Johan B
    Read more
  • I was lost and my soul was broken until I ended up at Crossroads and was introduced to the Twelve Steps. With the help of their excellent staff and amazing support I have recently been clean for 18 months, I could not have done it without them!
    Carla S
    Read more
  • "Just for today I am more than three years in recovery. I have Cross Roads to thank for this wonderful gift. Cross Roads helped me to set a firm foundation in my recovery on which I can continue to build."
    Angelique J
    Read more
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False Narratives in Recovery

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False Narratives in Recovery

08 January, 2021Articles, News

A central goal of self-disclosure within recovery circles is to challenge myths and misconceptions about addiction through the elements of our personal stories. Advocates of recovery must avoid contributing to false narratives by having selective parts of our stories appropriated while ignoring the central message of recovery.

Social stigmas relating to addiction, treatment and recovery, rest on old and new misconceptions regarding the sources and solutions to alcoholism and other problems with addiction. Such false narratives about the nature of addiction; treatment for addiction; recovery from addiction- add fuel to stigmas surrounding addiction and addicts.

Some of the stigmas which addicts encounter include :

Addiction is a product of moral turpitude (badness) that is best prevented and discouraged by public shaming and other forms of punishment. The moral turpitude fallacy continues to feed social shunning, serves as grounds for divorce, and provides a rationale for political disenfranchisement and discrimination in housing, employment, education, and medical benefits. Overemphasizing or exaggerating the bad people we were in the addiction portion of our stories inadvertently feeds this view.

Addicts pass on their degeneracy (bad seed) to their children. This narrative has resulted in the inclusion of addicts in mandatory sterilization laws as well as the loss of parental custody and related legal rights. It also feeds false narratives which tar the children of addicted parents with the same brush.

Addiction is untreatable (Once a junkie, always a junkie) This false narrative feeds personal, public, and professional pessimism about addiction and provides the rationale for prolonged institutionalization or incarceration. Many people who engage in substance use do not develop a problem with addiction. Many people who do engage in recreational use to a problematic extent, (for example young people during their high school or college years), tend to reduce their use once they take on more adult responsibilities. This is not to say that people with a substance use problem do not have a severe, chronic disorder. For them, addiction is a progressive disease that requires intensive treatment, continuing aftercare and family or peer support to manage their recovery. Addiction is a treatable condition, but recovery outcomes often depend upon numerous personal, clinical, and environmental factors.

Recovery is not possible until an addict hits rock bottom. Actually, most people recover from addiction long before hitting bottom (losing everything). Addiction-related loss and pain in the absence of hope is an invitation for continued self-destruction. The “hit rock bottom” premise suggests that recovery rests solely with the individual and therefore there is little family or community can do until this point of individual awakening occurs. This constitutes an invitation for family and community to abandon those suffering from addiction. This premise is untrue and is not applied to other medical conditions, and should be forever discarded within the arena of addiction. We must not let our stories be twisted to support this supposition even if we were one of those who did hit bottom and lost everything.

Recovery from addiction is the exception to the rule. This is yet again, one of many false narratives related to addiction and recovery. Recovery is the norm; individuals who do not achieve sustainable recovery are the exceptions. Those who struggle with recovery often have co-occurring problems that make achieving recovery more difficult. They also frequently have less support from within the community. Even people with the most severe addiction problems can and do recover when community and family resources are intensified. We must repel any effort to cast our recovery as the heroic exception to the rule and convey the consistent message that no one need die of addiction. Recovery is far more than possible; it is the probable long-term outcome for those who experience alcohol and other drug-related problems.

Media channels frequently tell the story of recovering from addiction as a personal story, focusing on the individual, rather than a larger story of the role of the family and community in addiction and recovery. The prevalence and severity of addiction are profoundly influenced by social, economic, and political contexts. The recovery tipping point has as much to do with family and community resources and the capacity to mobilise resources, as it does with what is going on within the addict. We serve best when we present our journey from addiction to recovery within these larger contexts and extoll the role of family and community in the recovery process.

The road to recovery from addiction is not always an easy one but getting yourself or your loved one the best care from the team at Crossroads Recovery Centre provides you with a map to sober, healthy living. No matter how bad things seem, there is hope and it’s just a phone call away. If you or anyone close to you needs help with an addiction to sex, gambling, substances, alcohol or food, please contact us for a free assessment.

www.crossroadsrecovery.co.za

074 89 51043 JHB

012 450 5033 PTA

References

Banning, A., & Karl, P. (1910). A preliminary study of extreme alcoholism in adults. Eugenics Laboratory Memoirs, XIV. London: Dulau and Co. Ltd.

http://www.williamwhitepapers.com/blog/2017/12/family-recovery-101.html

http://www.williamwhitepapers.com/blog/2020/12/pillars-of-stigma-and-recovery-storytelling-bill-white-bill-stauffer-and-danielle-tarino.htm

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Johannesburg Admissions: +27 74 895 1043
Pretoria Admissions: +27 82 653 3311
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Stories of Recovery

  • The encouragement, love and support from the team at Crossroads allowed me to eventually see that I was worth something - that my life could be turned around and that I could accomplish the things that had long been a forgotten dream.
    Oliver VG
    Read more
  • On the last day of my stint at Crossroads I could only express gratitude towards all who works there. A wise councillor once commented on my question when one is ready for rehab by explaining that when one is ready for rehab, rehab is ready for you.
    Johan B
    Read more
  • I was lost and my soul was broken until I ended up at Crossroads and was introduced to the Twelve Steps. With the help of their excellent staff and amazing support I have recently been clean for 18 months, I could not have done it without them!
    Carla S
    Read more
  • "Just for today I am more than three years in recovery. I have Cross Roads to thank for this wonderful gift. Cross Roads helped me to set a firm foundation in my recovery on which I can continue to build."
    Angelique J
    Read more
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