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Why is Anger an Obstacle in Recovery ?

25 August, 2021Articles, News

A person in recovery may face any number of challenges to their recovery process. Some of these challenges are external, we have problems with our family, friends and in our careers. Our financial situation may change, or our health may fail us. Other problems are a bit harder to pin down. We may struggle with flawed thinking, our attitudes and behavioural patterns may hold us back, and our emotions may control us despite our best efforts. A dragon many addicts and alcoholics must face in recovery is their own anger.

What is anger?
Anger is an emotional state brought on when a person feels offended or threatened. The same way humans express anger and rage at perceived danger, is present in many animals, this suggests that anger is part of a survival mechanic, rather than just a state of being. It is part of the “fight or flight” response. The body and brain are flooded with adrenaline, epinephrine and norepinephrine. This increases blood flow to the muscles and allows you to react faster and fight harder. This type of response is crucial when living in a situation where you must outrun predators and fight for your life, but you’re not running from a grizzly bear, you are not fighting off hungry scavengers, a taxi just cut you off on the way to work. Despite the reality of the situation, the brain and body still react as if your life is on the line.

Anger and the recovery process
Anger is very often an emotion used to cover up other emotions. This is the main reason why -in the recovery process, anger is particularly damaging. It is a superb defence mechanism. When a person is sad, or fearful or feels ashamed, it is so easy to just cover all those unpleasant feelings in a layer of anger. It is a way of protecting the ideas we had about ourselves and the things we went through. It helps us shift blame and fuels denial about the part we play in the situations we find ourselves in. Simply put, when angry it is near impossible to be vulnerable. Anger tells us that we are always right. That we don’t need to change and that these people (counsellors, sponsors, friends and family) who are telling us that we need to change are wrong. Recovery demands vulnerability. To fully solve our problems, we need to confront them head on. Being able to accept criticism, have our illusions about ourselves and the world around us shattered takes a great amount of courage.

What do we do about our anger
The initial feeling of anger is not actually the problem we have to solve. We often cannot control how our brains and bodies decide to react in the moment. There are however areas where we do have control. How am I going to react to this situation or person which is making me angry? And, how long am I going to be angry about this situation or at this person? The first often comes with time, practice and self-examination. It is almost as if you are trying to get in front of your thoughts before they run away with you. Studies have shown that meditation techniques are quiet effective in facilitating this type of adjustment in thinking patterns. In extreme cases anger management therapy and support groups may be necessary. When we are talking about the second choice we have, how long am I going to be angry, this often takes the form of a conscious decision to work through our feelings. When we hold on to resentment it is not an active process we are participating in. It is an underlying and unconscious pain, and whether we are aware of this pain or not, it could affect our judgments and our interactions with other people. In the 12 steps, we are asked to do a searching and fearless moral inventory, this is often where we are made aware of our resentments and just how deeply they have affected us. We are then asked to share this. It is in the sharing of our pain and anger that we can finally start to forgive, accept and let it go.

If you or a loved one needs assistance with an addiction – know that help is readily available. The road to recovery is not always an easy one but getting yourself or your loved one the best possible care from the team at Crossroads Recovery Centre, provides you with a map to sober, healthy living. No matter how bad things seem, there is hope and it’s only a phone call away. If you or anyone close to you needs help with an addiction to sexgamblingsubstancesalcohol or food, please contact us for a free assessment.

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Choosing A Rehabilitation Centre in Pretoria.

06 January, 2021Articles, News

Crossroads Recovery Centre is a rehabilitation centre in Pretoria offering high quality, specialized treatment for those suffering from alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, sex, food and other addictions. Addiction is defined by the relentless pursuit of a drink, drug or other addiction, no matter the consequences to yourself, your family and friends, work commitments and other people associated with you. An addict in active addiction will do whatever is necessary to fulfil their compulsion to use or get to the substance of their choice or to indulge in their particular form of addictive behaviour (such as gambling or food or sex).

Crossroads Recovery, is a well respected rehabilitation centre in Pretoria and as such, understands that addiction is the loss of control over the use of a chemical substance or physical action. Willpower and self control are no longer available to an addict, once addicted an addict/alcoholic no longer has any ability to exert long term control over their substance of choice. Without a radical change of personality and outlook on life they will undoubtedly fall prey once again to the nature of their addictive disease. Simply expecting an addict/alcoholic to be able to stop on their own is not realistic; an addict needs time in a rehabilitation centre to come to terms with their addiction and the treatment of their disease.

Everyone struggling with addiction pays a very high price. Addicts/alcoholics have lost the ability to control the use of their drug of choice and are now controlled by their addiction. Addicts/alcoholics have one thought running through their minds like a mantra ‘Just one more, and then I will stop’ over and over this goes ‘just one more time, I will use and then I will stop tomorrow and everything will be different, just one more time and then I will pull myself together and I will fix my life, just one more time, just one more, just one more’. Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow but tomorrow never comes. Lost in the illusion, they can never break free on their own.

The sad truth is that on his own, an addict or alcoholic will rarely be able to stop using for any length of time. Yes, they might be able to when things get bad enough, or when some crisis forces them to, like an impending divorce, a final warning at work or running out of money, but lifelong abstinence is always elusive. It is staying sober that is the problem. Once the crisis has passed or has been resolved, they invariably return to their previous habits. These periods of abstinence or controlled using are absolutely devastating to the addict and heartbreaking to family and friends who love and care for them. It is in these seemingly normal periods; going to work, spending time with family and living a seemingly normal and responsible life that alcoholics/addicts create the illusion of control over their drug of choice. In these periods, the addicted person begins to believe they can control their using; families begin to have some hope, addicts begin to have some hope for themselves, the future opens up with possibilities, and then it happens again. The cycle begins once more, before they realize it, they have torn down the hopes their families had for them, they have torn down the hopes and dreams they had for themselves.

This is the heartbreak and gut wrenching anguish of this disease. Periods of hope and possibility are normally followed by periods of using, a return to the nightmare of active addiction, where the compulsion to lie, steal, manipulate and hurt other people in order to satisfy the selfish compulsion to use, is overriding. The periods of seeming recovery and active addiction get closer and closer together until filled with guilt, shame, fear and anger, an addict will continue to use until the bitter end. As a leading rehabilitation centre in Pretoria for addiction – Crossroads Recovery Centre understands this and will help you and your loved ones on the journey towards recovery.

If the disease of addiction is not treated at some point, jail, institutions and death may be a consequence.

What is addiction?

  1. Addiction is defined by NIDA (National Institute on Drug Abuse US.) as a chronic, relapsing brain disease that is characterized by compulsive drug seeking and use, despite harmful consequences. It is considered a brain disease because drugs change the brain—they change its structure and how it works. These brain changes can be long lasting and can lead to the harmful behaviours seen in people who abuse drugs.
  2. Addiction is similar to other diseases like heart disease, in the sense that both disrupt the normal, healthy functioning of the underlying organ, have serious harmful consequences, are preventable, treatable, and if left untreated, can have lasting consequences.
  3. Individuals who suffer from addiction often have one or more accompanying medical issues, including lung and cardiovascular disease, stroke, cancer, and mental disorders. Imaging scans, chest X-rays, and blood tests show the damaging effects of drug abuse throughout the body.
  4. Simply expecting an addict/alcoholic to be able to stop using on his/her own is not realistic; an addict needs time in a rehabilitation centre to come to terms with their addiction and the treatment of their disease.
  5. Addiction, although a complex disease, is seen to be characterized by three main elements, namely physical craving, mental obsession and compulsive behaviour.
  6. Addiction is a progressive disease with periods of abstinence or controlled using followed by periods of loss of control or binges, these binges increase in severity and length as the addict progresses in their addiction.
  7. An addict in active addiction will do whatever is necessary in order to continue their addiction. Manipulation, dishonesty, stealing, theft, violence, prostitution, etc. are common secondary characteristics.
  8. Addiction is the avoidance of normal social responsibilities like work, family, relationships, etc.
  9. Addiction is loss of self-esteem and respect; using a substance in order to feel good about yourself.
  10. Addiction is the use of a substance to escape from emotional pain and feelings.
  11. Addiction is using despite negative consequences, loss of work, loss of family, criminal charges, etc.

Although the initial decision to take drugs is voluntary for most people, the brain changes that occur over time challenges a person’s self control and ability to resist intense impulses urging them to take drugs.

The road to recovery from substance abuse is not always an easy one but getting yourself or your loved one the best care from the team at Crossroads Recovery, a rehabilitation centre in Pretoria, provides you with a map to sober, healthy living. No matter how bad things seem, there is hope and it’s just a phone call away. If you or anyone close to you needs help with an addiction to sex, gambling, substances, alcohol or food, please contact us for a free assessment.

www.crossroadsrecovery.co.za

074 89 51043 JHB

012 450 5033 PTA

No Obligation Addiction Assessment

Book a No Obligation Confidential Assessment at your nearest Treatment Centre Today.

Johannesburg Admissions: +27 74 895 1043
Pretoria Admissions: +27 82 653 3311
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Stories of Recovery

  • The encouragement, love and support from the team at Crossroads allowed me to eventually see that I was worth something - that my life could be turned around and that I could accomplish the things that had long been a forgotten dream.
    Oliver VG
    Read more
  • On the last day of my stint at Crossroads I could only express gratitude towards all who works there. A wise councillor once commented on my question when one is ready for rehab by explaining that when one is ready for rehab, rehab is ready for you.
    Johan B
    Read more
  • I was lost and my soul was broken until I ended up at Crossroads and was introduced to the Twelve Steps. With the help of their excellent staff and amazing support I have recently been clean for 18 months, I could not have done it without them!
    Carla S
    Read more
  • "Just for today I am more than three years in recovery. I have Cross Roads to thank for this wonderful gift. Cross Roads helped me to set a firm foundation in my recovery on which I can continue to build."
    Angelique J
    Read more
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