#12 Physical & Emotional Comfort


The way we approach our physical comfort and the way we approach our emotional comfort are remarkably similar. When things get a bit uncomfortable, we try our very best to avoid them. This can be a surprisingly unhelpful idea.

Comfort Seeking

If we look at the physical side of thing, because emotions can be so hard to work with, we can see certain patterns. If its too cold, we hurry out of the cold and put the heater on. If we feel a tinge of hunger, we eat something. The list is endless and we find ourselves in a kind of homeostasis zone or comfort zone. We become emotionally bent out of shape on many levels just by avoiding anything that would push our limits.

This has the potential to create havoc in our lives and we have little or no idea how to get help. Society doesn’t help either because we’ve all become so focused on finding the easy way out, where often there isn’t one.

Develop Resilience

People adapt in multiple ways but the solution I’m discussing in the podcast, is information outlined in Scott Carney’s book ‘What Doesn’t Kill Us’. Learning how to breath and expose ourselves to the cold is an excellent starting point. In fact, I have found few better. We can learn how to gain a bit of perspective, using mechanisms that have been developed over thousands of years. That are a part of us and easily accessible.

Without giving too much away, I hope you enjoy this podcast.


This podcast was recorded as a series of lectures given to people in 12 step addiction recovery treatment. The purpose of these talks was to teach and motivate individuals to search for their own spiritual solution to their addiction.


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